Being a Good Friend

Thank you for reading. It really means a lot. I want to thank you for supporting me during this difficult time in my life. I’ve recently realized that I was in a depression that started when I was raped in September 2017 until I quit my job January 2019. When my boyfriend broke up with me in October, his rejection pushed me over the edge and I had a mental breakdown that lasted three months.

I have realized that the main cause of my depression has been my lack of self-validation and my inability to accept my thoughts and feelings. This created an addiction to pleasing people. Because of that, I have lied to all of you in some shape or form, whether by not telling you that something you did upset me or going to an event you invited me to that I didn’t want to go to or couldn’t actually afford, and for that I am so sorry. I’m trying to be better, to be honest about how I feel and what I think. That is why I have been publishing on my blog, that is why I went to five literature festivals in March, that is why I cut my hair, quit my job, and am currently on an island in Greece volunteering with refugees. I’m trying to do what makes me happy.

I want you to do the same, I want to support you to do what makes you happy. Your support has been so valuable and changed my life for the better. I know I’m going to make mistakes and I might make you upset, but I want you to be honest with me, and I will be honest with you. I genuinely care about you and want you to be happy. Even if I don’t respond or am too busy to go for coffee, even if I don’t like your Facebook posts or can’t attend your event, I want you to know that, to quote Toy Story, you’ve got a friend in me.

“Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.”

Elie Wiesel

“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”

William Shakespeare

“No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.”

Alice Walker