This is the workbook that goes hand in hand with the blovel How to Value Your Own Thoughts (2019). When I first titled the blovel, I didn’t actually think about turning it into a workbook even though it is essentially a ‘How to’ book. Not until, I received this message from Kraig, an actor I met during my Literary March:
I have been wanting to write a book but don’t know how to write very eloquently really and because it’s my own life story I don’t want it to sound too indulgent etc.
And boom. bang. pleep. My idea now had a direction. How could I help Kraig to do what I did…
More thinking, more reflecting, more dreaming, more coffee, more words, and here’s the workbook.
It’s not perfection, but given the global pandemic, I want to share what I learned with you and how writing my story saved my life.
Through writing my blovel, I transformed my rape experience from the story of a victim to that of a hero. I was so depressed after it happened because that experience completely destroyed my framework of how people act and how the world works. I also stopped being able to trust myself because I kept finding myself saying yes or staying silent when I wanted to say no. For a year and a half, I avoided thinking about the memory and lived in a sort of limbo until I experienced a few more traumatic experiences that forced me to face my past. Writing was my coping mechanism during that stressful time, it was also the tool I used to write a self-narrative that could make me smile again.
I realized during this period in my life that I was a terrible communicator. I now believe this to be the primary reason for the pain, hurt, and disappointment I experienced and I take full responsibility.
I have completely rebuilt my framework for who I am, how the world works, and how I’m supposed to navigate it all.
This workbook will break it down step by step, for in order to write your life story, you have to be an effective communicator.
In order to be an effective communicator, you have to know how to communicate with yourself.
And in order to communicate with yourself, you have to value your own thoughts.
I look forward to going on this journey with you together.